“Do what you love”, is advice I hear exclusively from financially secure people. And it rings hollow to me. When you need money to survive, you do any work that is available, love does not play into that choice. Desperation does.
If you do have a job, “do what you love” becomes another thing more desirable than what you already have, just because you don’t have it. “Do what you love” becomes mirage, illusion for something that is unattainable but which would solve all your problems and make you happy.
“We tend to forget that happiness doesn’t come as a result of getting something we don’t have, but rather of recognizing and appreciating what we do have.”– Frederick Koenig
If you are already doing what you love, great. But for most people divide between what they do today and what they think they would love to do is too wide. How to get there? How to get where?
I am suggesting different angle. Try doing what you already do, but better than anyone else. Try doing it world class and you’ll see that the better you do it, the more you love it. Take your craft to the next level. Pay attention to details and do the work right.
“The truth is that most people have a better chance to be uncommon by effort than by natural gifts. Anyone could give that effort in his or her chosen endeavor, but the typical person doesn’t, choosing to do only enough to get by.” Tony Dungy
Any time we do quality work we are deeply satisfied with it. Whether it is writing code, fixing a car or cooking, when done well it makes us happy. Good, quality work is always unmistakable. It fans out like waves. We instinctively recognize it. We feel better because of it and we like to share that feeling with others. That’s how word of good products, services and people spreads.
As word of your good work spreads the more positive feedback you get, emotional and financial. By doing good work, you just might find out that what you are doing, is what you are supposed to do. And if you don’t, quality work will get you to where you want to be.
“If you set your goals ridiculously high and it’s a failure, you will fail above everyone else’s success.”
James Cameron, director of Terminator and Titanic, from The New Yorker
Yet, this is not popular advice. There is no mirage to sell like with “Do what you love” story. There is only hard work.
In the “Outliers: The Story of Success” Malcolm Gladwell puts the “price” on the top performance. It is more than 10,000 hours and 10 years of focused, meaningful practice. Mozart started writing music at six, but he did not compose works now regarded as masterworks until he was twenty-one. Some argue that he actually peaked late since he didn’t compose his greatest work until he had been composing for more than twenty years. At six year of age I doubt that he knew what he loved. Likely he was imitating his father who was composer, teacher and violinist. He tried to do his best and over years of practice and hard work, what he did, became what he loved to do…
There is of course more to it, I am not suggesting that it is that simple. But there is connection between doing quality work, satisfaction and loving what you do. Perhaps we have cause and effect mixed up by everyone parroting “do what you love”.
Perhaps, love grows out of work well done.
I would like to know your personal experience related with the subject of this blog post.
Hi Andrew,
Yeah plenty. First example that comes to mind is that at some point in my career I could not make any money developing software, because and that time and place it was not accustomed to pay for software thus no money in it. I had to do desktop publishing work (QuarkXPress, Ventura Publisher, Corel Draw old ones, Page Maker etc.) instead to make money, no choice. At first, I was not interested in it at all, but as I dug deeper and tried to do better job I found that I started to like that more and more. Even today I find that I like to work with Photoshop and do design work even though at first years ago I was not attracted to it at all. I can tell you that I am not artistic by any stretch of imagination, but due to that experience and attempt to learn it and do as good job as possible, I still can do fairly decent job designing ads, web-sites etc.
So I guess you could sum it up as “do what you do, with love”
Yeah, I like that.
How refreshing. A new perspective. Thanks, Denis.
“Do what you love” will leave 90%+ of the population dissatisfied. Such dissatisfaction does not promote happiness, and will not really make us more effective.
“Do what you love ? Love what you do.”
Jim Cameron also directed a movie called Avatar. You may have heard of it. IT’S PACKING THEATERS ON MONDAY NIGHTS.
Yeah he definitely perfected his aim. Thanks for stopping by Giles!
This is karma yoga – being 100% in what you are doing, whether it is writing programs or washing dishes. See you on the path..
You are spot on. I like this from Eckhart Tolle: “Life is now. There was never a time when your life was not now, nor will there ever be”
you’ll also learn to love your arranged-marriage wife/husband after many years of convincing yourself, so I’ve heard.
I remember a quote from a Kafka story, taking place in some awful tenement / industrial neighborhood — There’s a bad smell everywhere, but eventually, you get used to it — something along those lines anyway.
No, “do what you love” is good advice. Convincing yourself to love something because you can’t do what you really want to do is a recipe for a crisis down the road. But you have to be ready to work harder than only “loving what you do”.
Jeff, thanks for stopping by. Accepting your conditions as they are, does not preclude you from getting to where you want to be. Getting to where you want to be always, always necessitates working harder, better and pushing yourself beyond imagined limits.
“Do what you love” is very often mirage. You have to love whatever you are doing right now or you will not get anywhere… Sure as hell beats being miserable with whatever you are doing 🙂
Denis, I was inspired by your post and wrote http://carymillsap.blogspot.com/2009/12/do-what-you-love-mirage.html in response. Thank you for your article.
Hi Cary, Thank you for great discussion.
Denis,
Very interesting post.
I often find people unhappy because they are not doing what they love. And when I ask, do you hate your current job, they say.. “No..it’s ok…but I love doing XXX..” . Imagine what they could be if they work heartily for those 8 hours.
The main problem I see with the ” Do what you love ” mantra is that it assumes if you love something, they would be (or should be) good enough to make it a career which is not always true.
The second thing is that inspite of having jobs which are interesting enough and challenging enough, these fairy tales inspire people to believe that out there…there exists jobs where they have an incredible ability to be better at something from day one just because they love it ….. which is not true. Also, why is it so necessary that if you love doing something, it has to become your job.!!?
Instead of looking for the perfect job , you should work with all your heart at your current interesting job and pretty soon.. you’d feel good at your workplace as you do good work and your work is appreciated… and it is an upward spiral from there on. Sure, you could always change paths … but you should not be chasing mirages.
Thanks for the interesting post!
Rajesh.
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Ok, I may sound pollyanna-ish, AND I believe that we can have our career cake ad eat it too. Denis, I love your post and appreciate what it conveys. Still, as a passions & possibilities coach, I think it an be a strategy to give up too soon on one’s dreams..that is, to use circumstances as an excuse not to go for what sings our hearts. True, it’s a balancing act between loving what’s so now AND not staying there. Truer still, it’s important to express our talents and gifts, if not our true passions. AND…When I really check in with myself and clients as to what’s in the way of doing what we love and having the rest follow, I find either/or thinking: either I follow my dreams 180% or NOT. Either I’m successful and thriving at what I love OR I’m not. Commitment and perseverance are both required to move through the times when we’re not quite thriving as we follow our dreams. Bottom line? Nothing’s “secure” anymore now anyway, so why not take baby steps in the direction of passion rather than just in a comfort zone of what we’re good (or even great) at. None of the Passioneers I’ve interviewed around the world ever regretted making the leap into what they love…except to say they wished they had done it sooner. And ALL of them found their prosperity quotient higher than when they started, albeit perhaps on a lower budget. I say GO FOR IT, let go of comfort zones, and live like there’s no tomorrow. Happy Passioneering!
The efficacy of “do what you love” also has a lot to do with your definition of success. If you are only happy when you have money, of course the advice “do what you love” won’t work–money is not constant or dependable.
There are some things that are always worth attempting; the key to happiness and success is to find and do those things.
I am doing a startup right now, and if by some one-in-a-thousand chance, I become very rich, I will still always tell people to “do what they love.”